micheleyaks-deactivated20130124 asked: Dear Anonymous: On my profile I'm labeled as a lesbian and I still get constant messages from creepy men who want to date me and tell me I'm pretty. I get more messages from them than from the women I want to hang out with.
Nah girl, maybe you should revise your profile. It probably screams “interested in casual sex/long-term relationships with men.” Maybe you’re dressed too provocatively? Perhaps you could try being less conventionally attractive to not get these types of messages?
Anonymous asked: wait, youre not saying that your okc inbox is exclusively those kinds of messages right? because there is an abundance of sane men (not necessarily your type, but not rude and/or insane) on okcupid - just as there is an abundance of insane men. if that's all you're getting, maybe you should revise your profile?
Why would I even bother adding the “sane” messages to the comic? It’s a comic. It’s supposed to be funny, not give you personal validation that you’re one of the “nice guys” on OkCupid. The vast majority of the messages women receive on OKC are creepy, sexual, or harassing — that’s why there are tons of websites and Tumblrs devoted to screenshots of them. Just look at the comments on the comic itself and see how many women identify with it.
But yeah, it must be all of our completely scandalous, slutty profiles inviting this! The only way a woman could “revise” her profile to not get these types of messages would be to delete her account.